By Senior Associate, Holly Pitt
Choosing the right family lawyer can be one of the most difficult decisions to make. Whether you’re navigating a divorce, dealing with child custody issues, or facing the complexities of domestic violence during a family dispute, it’s essential to have a lawyer who genuinely understands and supports you. The below is a useful checklist on what to look for in engaging a family lawyer.
Genuine Understanding Through Empathy
A lawyer who truly understands you will approach your case with empathy and respect. They should not only listen to your concerns but also strive to understand the emotions and experiences that shape your situation. This empathetic approach is especially important if you are dealing with sensitive issues such as a history of family violence.
What to Look For:
- Non-Judgmental Attitude: Your lawyer should create a safe space where you feel free to share your experiences without fear of judgment. This is particularly important if you’re discussing painful or stigmatized issues.
- Compassionate Listening: They should listen actively and compassionately, validating your feelings and experiences rather than offering quick solutions or dismissing your concerns.
Personalised and Respectful Legal Guidance
An effective family lawyer will tailor their approach to fit your unique needs and circumstances. They should understand that each case is different and avoid applying a one-size-fits-all strategy. Look for a lawyer who provides legal strategies and solutions that are specifically designed to address your personal situation and goals.
Inclusive and Affirming Support
It’s vital that your lawyer is inclusive and affirming of all identities. For example, where you identify as part of the LGBTQIA+ and/or gender diverse community, your lawyer should demonstrate an understanding and acceptance of diverse identities and experiences. They should create an inclusive environment where you feel respected and understood regardless of your sexual orientation or gender identity. Look for signs that they are knowledgeable about LGBTQIA+ issues and are committed to providing affirming legal support.
Clear and Supportive Communication
Effective communication is essential in any lawyer-client relationship. Your lawyer should be open, transparent, and supportive throughout the process, ensuring you are never left in the dark.
Flexibility and Responsiveness
A supportive lawyer will be responsive to your needs and flexible in their approach, adapting to changes and feedback throughout your case. Where there is legal merit for it, they should be willing to adjust their strategies and approach based on your feedback and evolving circumstances.
Next Steps – Search for the right fit!
Finding a family lawyer who truly understands and supports you can make a significant difference in your experience and the outcome of your case. Look for a lawyer who demonstrates empathy, provides personalised guidance, is inclusive and affirming, communicates clearly, and remains responsive and adaptable. By ensuring these qualities are present, you can find a representative who is not only skilled but also deeply committed to supporting you through one of life’s most challenging times.
Your lawyer should be a partner in your journey, providing compassionate and effective representation while respecting and valuing your unique experiences and identity. We encourage you to reach out to one of our experienced family lawyers to see if the fit feels right with us.
